The good news is that I will remain a green card holder - permanent resident alien and can stay and work. I can apply for citizenship on or after the 5th year (can not remember which).
For immigration purposes as the wife was a US citizen she had to sponsor me to get out here and that does not finish on divorce. All it means is that if I claimed means tested benefits e.g medical, unemployment or food stamps, the federal government could sue her for the cost of those benefits I claimed until I became a citizen.
She told me a few weeks ago that she was off the hook after 2 years of being in the US. I thought this was wrong and checked it with the US Immigration department and it clearly states the 4 reasons when her support finishes and it is not after 2 years or divorce or her re-marriage to someone else!!!
I told her this the other day and she just made up the 2 year thing. She just does not have a clue. I would not wish her to be sued and would not claim for these benefits. I am not a shi* and have my respect and pride.
I walk the high road and can walk away from all this sitch with dignity. I can live with myself and that is what keeps me going. If she can live with herself and God then she is a husk of what she once was. However, I think one day she will regret this for the rest of her life and she will have to live with it until she dies.
I have heard so many lies from her that I trust my 11 year old more over her and at this point, I do not have much respect for the WAW and do not care about our relationship, friendship or reconcilliation. She has changed in respect of how she treats and interacts with the children and does not spend a great deal of time with the older ones, never takes them out for fun, etc.
If I could take the children, I would. I do not feel at this point in time that I would take the WAW back if that was ever an option. She has changed for the worse where these children are concerned and maybe as a whole.
