Still Hoping for Hope

[FaithfulH]

Nutcase (BTW, you sound like the opposite of a nutcase...what would that be? Not-So-Nutty?),

One thing I learned as I tried to understand things my W said when we were separated: Sometimes I think we give our spouses to much "credit" for things they say. As if they are well thought out notions that provide insight into their deepest held beliefs. Sometimes they (just like us) say things that cross their minds...and they may feel differently and believe differently momemts later. After my W and I reconciled and I began to deal with MY trust issues...I asked my W why I should believe her now when she says "I Love You"...even though I got the "I Never Loved You" line during our separation. Her answer? I said that because I was hurting. So, stay steady, Nutty! You are thinking FAR more clearly than your husband right now. Just give him the grace, space, and love he needs to complete his journey (as it appears you are doing). I agree with our other dear DB friends here about the HOPE in your sitch. Keep standing, sister!