First, my wife tells me she wants me to be happy too. And I believe her. The thing is, she wants me to be happy without her. Plain and simple.
As for your family, its too bad they can't make it out. Can you meet half way? Do you have any idea why their not trying to make an effort?
Family isn't the only support group available. Spend time with friends or take time to make new friends. Easier said than done in some situations but see what you can do.
As for when to give up... That is completely up to you. DB'ing says you can fight it all the way to the D and even beyond. However, it all depends on what's inside of you (not a measurement of strength, a measurement of what you're willing to go through to TRY to save your marriage).
Well from what I can recall, my W never told me to be happy. She just kept saying that she needs to make herself happy again.
My family has never really been supportive even when I was young; I mean their idea of support is calling to see how I am doing and if I say not good they say things will get better. There are several times where family has came to visit but I can count them on one hand. Same for my friends as well.
I mean I do not want to give up but I feel like I would be whenever I have to sign the D papers. I mean I do not know how I can keep DBing when we are no longer married, but I guess that I just need to take care of me, keep working on changing the parts of me that I do not like. I am just praying that my W will see them but I highly doubt it since she is never around. I am willing to try and save my marriage but I am going at it alone and it is very difficult.
Originally Posted By: sgctxok
Sometimes the best thing to do is NOTHING. Just go about your business and take care of yourself and forget about the rest. Give it a few days of that.
Do nothing about what? I have been trying to go dark, I do not call, text, or email her anymore, in fact I haven’t in a while. I mean I do forward her jokes that I get via email, maybe I should stop that. I have been focusing on myself a lot lately, I started working out again.
