Has OM ever had kids? What's his experience of children?
I know that children will look for the chinks in parents armour sometimes to manipulate a situation but you can't ignore what your son is saying to you.
I believe he has children but think they are older than mine. I do not know how many and what age. My oldest daughter said at one point that one of his daughter's will not talk to him but do not know whether this is true.
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Is there no way you can get your W and kids back to the UK if your W was happier here. The housing market in the Us and the economy are in such a state at the moment over there that to be trying to work in the loan industry at this time seems just madness.
She would not go at this point. She said that there was nothing to go back for. We sold the house in the country and all that money has gone. May be she may consider one day but not at this point.
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Have you no family back over here that can help you out if you try to jump back. Both you and your W and your kids are having to cope with such an alien enviroment at a bad time.( I should explain that I don't mean the US is alien as such , just being in ANY different country and trying to put down roots and establish ones selves etc is stressful). I know the OM paid your W's medical bills etc so far but what if one of your kids got badly hurt and needed medical assistance that wasn't state funded. I just feel you are so vulnerable at the moment the way things are.
In the UK WAW would have her father and step mother and I would have my mother and family. My mother is very concerned about the children.
My WAW should have state Medicare for the children and herself soon so they should be o.k. in the USA.
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Hang in there and find out as much about OM and his temperament as you can. Don't use the info as ammunition with your W but it will help you judge what sort of a guy he is to be around your children. If I thought my kids were in danger of being hurt by someone - even their other parent - I would grab them and be on the next flight home WHATEVER.
When I was with my wife, she told me that her girlfriend said she did not like going in his shop as she said he was creepy. My 13 year old daughter said she thought he was creepy as well. I presume you ladies have some sort of intuition?
If this guy can come to the house with my wife and children and let the kids watch as the home they lived in was being emptied of their belongings when they father was present, what does that say about him?
He is never going to be with the children. He works 12 hours a day and the children have to be in bed before he gets home. It might see them for an hour or two on Saturday and 3 hours on a Sunday.
I wish I could find out who is ex-wife was and his children are. I know the ex ives in the area. I would love a long convesation with her that is for sure.
Any way got to go to work. I am calling the school to talk to a councellor. See and tell what is going on with oldest son.
