Went to the ortho. He said I will likely need surgery, but wants me to come back next week, because it's still too swollen. I'll probably be back on both feet and walking normally (by my estimation) by mid-January.
Hey Lilli, I hope you really do see this as a vacation, cuz that is the quickest way to healing. You need to chill with the ice pack and be positive. Call in all your favors, if needed, to make sure you allow for the healing time. (it is clearly a crappy vacation, but hey, what other options do you have?)
There are smart people here... I miss y'all a lot.
I've posted on here already, but I feel I want to post again and say how grateful I am to have such a wonderful and understanding husband.
As many of you know, IC went for his first chemo treatment on Monday. I've been in many emotionally testing situations with IC and he's always been the one to ease the situation, either with a joke, a smile...something that would always bring me back, settle me down and let me know that things will be ok. I was apprehensive going in for the treatment and even more so after seeing some of the other families, with the hurt and fear that they too were dealing with. I began to feel myself slipping and then for the first time that I can remember, I saw fear in IC's eyes. As much as I know how scared both he and I are, I had not REALLY seen it in him until now. I understand that our reactions are perfectly normal, it's just that I was not prepared mentally for that and I withdrew. IC needed me, and I withdrew. We're not beating ourselves up over this. IC told me in his understanding way that it's ok with him that I reacted like I did...again, I am so grateful to have him in my life.
Just rambling now..I took IC's advice and took the kids out to eat so he could catch up on some sleep. I got home, put the girls to bed and went and fell asleep holding IC....it was nice . I wake up around 3 A.M. and he's gone ! I go looking for him and he's down in the basement playing his electric guitar. I stop and sit on the steps, just out of sight and listened to him play. I've never fully realized his artistic side. I sat and listened to his renditions of Ozzy, AC/DC...and of course...Ted Nugent, along with some of his own stuff. I ended up falling asleep there on the steps. I wake up this morning, with a blanket wrapped around me and a little note from IC asking if I wanted to be his "groupie" tonight and what is this about a "flying shish kabob????" He's gone off to work so I guess he's feeling a little better today . Ok, just my little story of gratitude for the day. Thanks guys for listening !
I wake up this morning, with a blanket wrapped around me and a little note from IC asking if I wanted to be his "groupie" tonight and what is this about a "flying shish kabob????"
OMG !!! Never mind..I just read Mojo's post ! IC, you sick, sick pup ! Tell you what...you figure this out with your knee brace and all and maybe we'll think about it
Mojo, why do you keep feeding my boy's mind with this stuff ? He's twisted enough as it is
Ok, in the last 48 hours, my H has told me how much he loves me and misses me and that he just cannot WAIT to get home (33 days for those of you counting w/ me )
He has also expressed such concern for my health & well-being over the past month as I've dealt w/ my surgery & varying "issues" connected & not connected. I can remember getting the biopsy on my lung and him not seeming to care whether his W had lung cancer or not!!
For the second chance at a wonderful M w/ a H I now see how much I truly love and was very much destined to be w/, I am so very grateful -- every day. (He's pretty damn sexy too )
For the 3 most beautiful & sweet boys we have, I am so very grateful -- every day.
For the fact that those beautiful, sweet boys will not have to grow up w/ divorced parents, I am so very grateful -- every day.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Thanks for the birthday wishes and ankle wishes everyone.
These are trying times... my accident coming at the same time as his mom's chemo is testing my bf to the MAX (and he's not handling everything very well). He's being rude to me, having angry outbursts, and generally being a horse's a$$. This morning we had apologies and a bit of a breakthrough, but all in all, it's not going well. He is an acts of service guy, but he wants to do the service HE wants to do, and does NOT want to hear what I want. When I express what I want, he interprets that as a criticism (he actually told me this last night) of him for NOT having thought of it already.
So, for example, I asked him four hours ago to please bring me something to eat. I'm in bed with my leg propped up. He has not gotten around to it yet. I'm going to conduct a real-time experiment and ask him again, and I'll report the results momentarily. Okay I just asked him very nicely if he was going out (there's really nothing edible in the house except apples). He said in that almost-at-the-end-of-my-rope-but-I'm-trying-to-hold-onto-it tone: "I'm going to the CPA's to drop off some stuff, then to the cleaner's, then to the barbecue place to get you a sandwich, then back here, then to mom at the nursing home."
So I said, "Will you bring me an apple from the kitchen before you go?" Instead of walking 30 feet to the kitchen and getting me an apple, he kept on doing chores, and then his cell phone rang. "Hey, buddy, how ya doing?" Very upbeat, cheerful, "public" voice-- "everything's fine, I'm cool, life is throwing stuff at me, but I'm managing." Now he's taken the phone outside, so the apple is forgotten.
BUT he is showing his love for me by cleaning the bathroom all morning and scrubbing out the tub with bleach. He told me he was doing this for me.
Lill, Just say the word and I'll have a pizza on the way...or better yet, I'll Fed-ex one of my world famous venison burgers to ya...white or wheat bun ? hold the pickle, extra mayo ? I might even have some Michigan cherries to go along with that apple...a little fruit salad thing going on
A little ass kicking the last few days, but glad to report ole IC is slowly starting to stagger his way back. I'm nowhere near normal but at least I can function and starting to get a little appetite back as well Don't know when and what normal will be now, guess I have to have a wait and see attitude. Gee, and to think I get to do this all over again in 3 to 4 weeks....I'm so looking forward to it
I've come up with a little list to help keep my spirits up, everyone feel free to add to it {and no, you will not offend me}
1) Pretty soon, I'll likely be saving money on shampoo 2) Less time spent in the shower washing my hair 3) I assume less time spent shaving ?? No more 5 o'clock shadow? or with daylight savings time is it a 4 o'clock or 6 o'clock shadow...and if it's a 6 o'clock shadow...in Michigan it's dark by 6 pm so is it really a shadow at all????
Lill, how is that sandwich coming ?
4) With the loss of appetite and the nausea...I should be able to keep off any unwanted pounds.
That's all I got right now..so feel free to add on
(((Lil))) I'm sorry your bf is being such a pain in the behind. I suppose he'd be offended if you called a friend to help you out, pick up groceries, or whatever.
IC, your attitude is amazing! Keep up the open communication with each other and you'll get through this, together. We're all cheering you on!
I am grateful for today because I am 40!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is one of the best milestones I can remember. The last one I was this impressed with was 21. 40 is better.
My best to both of you. I have three close friends in different surgeries and treatments related to different types of cancer today. I am thinking of the ones I care about both sick and well and that includes my cyber-friends!
Tell you what...you figure this out with your knee brace and all and maybe we'll think about it 
