when my H left I was flabergasted and had no earthly idea why, we did have our fights and dissagreements, but never realized he was that unhappy. Later on it dawned on me, as I looked at myself real hard what I had done to my marriage. Yes, with kids we women tend to put our Hs in teh back burner. It was all right with you, how things were, but, perhaps (much like my H) your H internalized everything and one day he just couldnt' take it anymore and left with no explanation.
Keep going to C, sometimes S are constructive and gives both partners a chance to rebuild the M. I think the book "getting back together" deals with such separations. Feelings come and go, it is hard to hear that your H never loved you (btdt) but that isnt' the end.
Stay strong, my prayers your way.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
