Hi Sandi, havn't been on for awhile, and am wondering how you are doing. Hope everything is ok. I read some of your latest posts and am sorry for the sitch that you are in. Unfortunately we men think that if something ain't broke, don't try to fix it. Now I am not saying that your H doesn't understand that something isn't broken, he just doesnt know how to fix it, b/c over most of your marriage, he did the same things he is doing now. We are creatures of habit, and very resistant to change, especially if someone else is trying to change us. I do think that we all can change if we have incentive to do so, so why not "go for broke" as far as what you need from your H. As Dom R has been saying, if you dont make the first move, your H probably will not. I am sorry to say that, but if he truly recognizes there is a problem, as he must have when he sent you flowers and such, he will want to do everything to make things better. Maybe I am thinking of myself and you know your H better than i do, but I just read and article in the USA today magazine from the sunday paper that men dont know what you want until you tell them. Women think that if a man truly cares, he shouldnt have to wait for you to tell him what you want. Kind of sounds like a broken record doesnt it? It all comes down to communication, and most of us do a lousy job at it. I have to go to work now, will try to post later. Take care.
