What To Do Now When WAW Living With OM

[saffie]

Foo,

Has OM ever had kids? What's his experience of children?

I know that children will look for the chinks in parents armour sometimes to manipulate a situation but you can't ignore what your son is saying to you.

Is there no way you can get your W and kids back to the UK if your W was happier here. The housing market in the Us and the economy are in such a state at the moment over there that to be trying to work in the loan industry at this time seems just madness.

Have you no family back over here that can help you out if you try to jump back. Both you and your W and your kids are having to cope with such an alien enviroment at a bad time.( I should explain that I don't mean the US is alien as such , just being in ANY different country and trying to put down roots and establish ones selves etc is stressful). I know the OM paid your W's medical bills etc so far but what if one of your kids got badly hurt and needed medical assistance that wasn't state funded. I just feel you are so vulnerable at the moment the way things are.

Hang in there and find out as much about OM and his temperament as you can. Don't use the info as ammunition with your W but it will help you judge what sort of a guy he is to be around your children. If I thought my kids were in danger of being hurt by someone - even their other parent - I would grab them and be on the next flight home WHATEVER.

Saffie