And so it begins...

[Dom R]

I did the whole "no wrong time to do the right thing" story, that daughter won't be as effected by dad coming back as she will be by his being gone, she wanted to hear none of it.

that doesnt matter. Do the right thing.

Do me a favor.. I believe you're right, but it's not you I have to go home to!! Convince my wife that it's the right thing to do and you got a deal!!!

You dont have to convince her. you just need to DO the right thing!

besides, as I mentioned... your wife doesnt care what the 'RIGHT THING' for your marriage is! It's pointless even attempting to convince her or argue about it!

Yes, she will be angry if you do the right thing for your marriage! Because she's trying to break it up!

I need to get some sleep

I'll try to leave you with this.

Dont be impulsive any more.
Do the right thing, instead of what you have been doing.

Dont do what she says she wants right now.
Do the right thing.

The right thing by your marriage, not "the thing that will make my wife calm down right now".
It's the tough choice, but the right choice.

Go home. apologise for being stupid and deciding to move out.
She may yell and scream at you. Just shut your mouth, and quietly be there, and do good things.

The number one thing you said was important for your daughter, was for you two to stop fighting. SO: stop fighting!

Dont argue with your wife any more.

Just be there. Without arguing.

Commit to yourself, to not arguing with her about anything, for 2 weeks. [and staying out of her way while in the house, as much as possible]

That doesnt mean AGREEING with everything. Just dont argue about it either. shut your mouth, and just be there. Say "I'm sorry" if you have to say something.
Make things as nice as you can for your daughter and wife.
Make sure your daughter has her own bed to sleep on, so that she has nothing to complain about.



GO back there for 2 weeks.
See whether your wife has calmed down after 2 weeks.

things cant get any worse for you, really, than where they are now: separated, headed for divorce, and only seeing your daughter once every two weeks, or whatever it was you said.

You moving out, tells your wife by your actions, "i agree that you should divorce me".

You moving back, says, "i want to keep working on our marriage".

Do the right thing.

good night.