Lost:

your wife is in "leaving" mode.
That probably means, that like many other spouses, she's probably going to FIGHT you, if you attempt to do things to make your marriage better.

You need to do them anyway, if it is truely the right thing to do.

If you're looking for her approval for doing good things, before you do them... you're not going to get it from her.
She's "done". she's not going to help you.
If you said, "look, i found a book that will guarantee our marriage is fixed, if only I read it! should I read it?"
she would probably say "NO".


You need to figure out the good things, and do them anyway.

Leaving your family, seems to be a commonly held "bad thing", and staying with your family, seems to be fairly universally a "good thing".


Last edited by Dom R; 11/13/07 06:54 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle