Originally Posted By: LostInMN
My wife has made it abundantly clear that living separately is in my immediate future.


meaning, what, exactly?
She may want you to move out right now. but that doesnt mean that you should.

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I know what my wife needs right now to keep me from being pushed further away. I have to give some here and there.


Not ONE PERSON HERE who has decided to separate recently, has had any good from it.
NOT ONE, over the last [3 months?]

loong term, people have reconciled after separation. But it's more "in spite of the separation", not because of it.

If you think that being separated is "Good for your marriage", the numbers here say otherwise.
If you separate, you may well be out of the house for 6 months or longer.

If your wife chooses to move out herself, there's nothing you can do about that, certainly.
But you moving out because she's pissed, is backwards. it makes recovery harder.




Last edited by Dom R; 11/13/07 06:42 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle