And so it begins...

[Dom R]

Daughter did not know I had come home, she was asleep the whole time I was there. I believe my wife when she says that my inability to reason through some things before acting, to be so impulsive, to be so compulsive, isn't good for our daughter.


EXACTLY.

you MOVING OUT, was "impulsive". you can fix that now though.

I will be over there tmrw night for a while, likely Thursday and again over the weekend. I feel I need to get me a little straight before I try and keep our daughter satisfied that dads home.

There was no fighting tonight, just a short discussion with me realizing what's taken me so long to understand. If I can't fix me, I have no hope of fixing us later.

If you stay out "until you are fixed", you are going to screw up your daughter's head for a long time, because you are not "going to be fixed" for a long time. So you will be living separately for a long time. And thus impact your daughter.


You've already shown yourself that you can do it: you didnt have an angry fight with your wife.

have confidence in your own resolve to fix things. Dont let your wife's disbelief, shake your resolve.