PS: you have a wonderful, incredibly valuable gift:

Your wife told you straight out what the problem is that she has with you, and I think accurately, too.

You are a very lucky man. Treasure that gift. It puts you in a better place to recover your marriage, than many many people on there.

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle