And so it begins...

[Dom R]

I'm really glad to hear you've decided to stick it out and keep hanging in there

From what others have written about their own struggles... you should let go of "can I get her back? What can I get her to do?", and focus on what you are doing yourself.

Right now, seems like you are committed to working on you, but you also seem to want to get Her, working on Her, for purposes of believing You.

I think that the best thing you can do.. both for her, AND for you... is to let go of her side of the equasion.
If SHE, comes to YOU, and asks you, "why the sudden change?", then show her the books you've been reading. Otherwise, just let her judge you based on your behaviour.

Focus on you. Be the best husband you can be.
That is the best, and pretty much only, way, you can convince her to really try again. Her reading all the books in the world on how you "Might, someday, be a better man", wont help, if you dont show her that better man.
And if you show her... she wont need the books so much

I dont think you need to worry about getting her attention. I think she's watching how you act now, and paying very close attention.


You're probably not going to convince her today... or tomorrow... or next week.

You're in a marathon, not a sprint. So dont burn yourself out thinking "I gotta fix everything this week!!"
Focus on your stride, and where YOU want to get YOU to, as a person. Keep moving in that direction. If you trip, get back up and keep going.
Then I think you may both end up in a good place

Good luck to you