OK...today not a good day for me...not in my PMA or DBing techniques. Her comment that she may only be trying because she feels guilty that I'm making so many changes and trying so hard for her, and she feels guilty for not putting in an effort for the kids sent me spinning. We had such a good few days before she left town, my PMA sky high, I have a hard time dealing with it now. We had kissed, she had approached me for a kiss, etc. Now...she wants nothing to do with intimacy.
We had a big R discussion tonight. She admits that she has the same feelings, but is trying to change her feelings. OK, good. Then later she says its very unlikely it will work out, maybe she shouldnt try at all, and she would need to see a lawyer before actually moving out. I asked if she was really trying as she intended last week, or if she was just trying to make things easy over the holidays..you can guess that answer and it was a stupid question.
So..I did calm her down and we have agreed to still live her and coexist, spend some time together, but I wouldnt press for intimacy. So, yes, that is a setback from where we were last Wed.
I'm sure I know the answer, but how do I make my self attractive to her? I can continue to do what I have been doing, but there's something there that's confusing her. She is obviously confused and my PMA put a knot in my stomach.
