What others see about us (as in appearing to be stupid) is mostly irrelevant. Those that are close to us don't want us to hurt, hence the "move on" stuff. Those that aren't close don't matter.
I like mmf's questions about how you achieve happiness for yourself and why you're stading. They are questions I've been spending some time myself. I'm one of those who does better in a R, however until my D's (youngest is 12) are through high school, I won't be. Personal choice. So I've got about 6 years to spend on me and the "hope" of a new R with H. If I appear stupid to put that much time into the man I couldn't live without, I can live with that.
