So the LDW's (not just the posters here but hypothetically the wives of the HD men) who complain that their partners don't put enough effort into sex wouldn't like this any more than their current sex-starved scenario?
This type of pampering and total focus on my needs would be nice from time to time, but EVERY time? I don't think I'd like it. It would make the R feel too one-sided and I'd start to feel like I was taking advantage somehow. Yes, I've thought that cac could have done more of these things over the years (and still could), but this guy just seems over-the-top.
For me, a sugar fiend, it would be like having every kind of sweet I like at my disposal all the time. It would get kind of boring after a while. My favorite chocolate is a treat because I only eat it once in a while. So when I do eat it, it's fabulous.
... and so I could totally relax (sometimes) and let him just DO me. Haven't we occasionally said that that can be nice?
We do this. And sometimes I decide to O before I/C. And sometimes I O again during I/C. (I prefer to O during I/C.) So I don't get this statement from "the guy:"
unfortuantely she comes so early that I don't
Huh? Does he mean they don't O together??
And then this:
she cums first...I end up cumming by hand after (my own hands) while she kisses me. I haven't figured out the male O, but I've got the female one nailed- respect, service, dedication, comfort, attention to detail
Why does he O with his hands? Am I missing something? Why can't he O in her vagina?
I guess I'm just so used to doing ALL the work that I wistfully look back on the guy who was very concerned with my pleasure.
This must be frustrating. I've never felt that cac wasn't concerned with my pleasure. He's always taken more than enough time during sex. That has never been an issue.
Meryl Streep and Clint Eastwood are in the bathtub together, and her voice-over narration says, "That week he gave himself over entirely to my pleasure."
I took that to mean: NOT to the exclusion of his own pleasure, but I didn't have to worry or work so hard at it. Kind of like what Mojo was saying about the lingering fear that GP will put on the brakes and tell her to slow down.
I never saw the movie. But you and Mojo, as HDs, have had completely different experiences than I (or other LDWs) have had. We're not concerned that our partners will put on the brakes and tell us to slow down. Technically I was sex-starved, but not in the same way that HDs are. I always could have sex whenever I wanted it, so I didn't feel starved at all. Problem was, I didn't want to have it that often.
I do have to work at it if I decide to have sex when I'm not yet feeling aroused. That's when I have to turn off my thinking brain and turn on my "sexual" brain, take off my mom hat and put on my wife hat, and sometimes it's hard to do. In the past it was more work than I was willing to do a lot of the time. But if I am aroused it is very easy. I never have to worry that cac isn't interested.
