NC, you ask if there is hope. It depends on what you believe. It is never a waste of time to do what you need to do. If you feel you should wait, no one should make you feel as if you shouldn't. Hope is something that is a gift. It isn't foolish and it certainly isn't a curse. What is it you believe?
If you could look into the future, say 2, 5 or 10 years down the road, and your H is back with you after a long time of being in MLC-land, was it "false hope"? What if the same time passes and he is gone, not coming back? Was it a waste of time? To most people, they would say yes. You should take care of yourself by having happiness with someone else. Do you get happiness by who you are with or what you know about yourself and what you give to others?
Reading about you in a few short posts tells me that you have so much more depth and so much more in your life than your H. It is so understandable after standing longer than almost anyone post-D that you are questioning whether you should continue standing. Very few people can stand that long. I question my ability to stand that long. I know I certainly can't do that under my own power or ability. Why are you standing?
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
