Hey, you sound a little down like Grace said, keep your chin up. Don't let things get to you, there are a lot of us in the boat right with you.
Is his work at a place where you can go see it? or have you already seen it?
Keep your part of the conversations safe, nothing R related.
Be a safe haven for him to return to. It isn't fair, I know, but it is what we have to do.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory