Limbo, Thanks so much for the insight, I just asked my husband if he would be interested in going. I was really nervous about asking. ( you can read some background from my previous posts)
I have been thinking about it for about 2 months and when everything went south I threw the pamphlet away.
Well this past weekend was nice, and if I didn't know any better I would have thought we were back to normal.(except for intimacy)We talked about R and had some tears but in the end we spent some quality time together.
I thought I'd give it another try since we are at a different place now in the relationship. We are not so angry although he cannot forgive himself and still feels that there is nothing there for me in him.
When I brought Retrouvaille up tonight he said he would bring it to work tomorrow and read it. I told him we could still go through with the seperation if he wanted.We both have lawyers now.
He said he would read it but would make no promises.(That kinda hurt, but at least he's reading it!)
I will keep my fingers crossed and hopefully he wants to come with me with an open mind.
Question is , how am I going to approch him tommoroww about how he feels and if he wants to give it a try?
I don't want to pressure him and yet I want to reassure him that it is between me and him.
I told him it is about the two of us learning to communicate He is dead set against anything that has to do with councelling or marriage therapy.
I think this may be my last chance. Did I jump at this too quickly? I'm pretty nervous.....
Anything else that I could add to the pamphlet when talking to him tommorrow, from those who have already gone and are also dead set against therapy or coucelling would be great. I really want to make this work by not making him feel pressured.
Thanks
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
