Welcome. So glad you finally posted after being a lurker. I give you a ton of credit for standing even now, after the D. I think they make their admissions little by little as they move through this. I am sure there are things your xh would admit to anyone else but you, which is why you are hearing things from your daughter about how sorry he is, etc. He could very well be moving through this; what is the deal with this ow you found out about? Do you know much about her? I ask because it seems like when they are with very, very different women that fit the "affair down" category (i.e., needy, lonely, broke, addiction-suffering, etc.) they are usually using them for a pick me up so to speak, because they are so depressed themselves. Might be a good indicator. Keep posting!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
