So the LDW's (not just the posters here but hypothetically the wives of the HD men) who complain that their partners don't put enough effort into sex wouldn't like this any more than their current sex-starved scenario?
I didn't find his extreme self-assurance that different from blackfoot's tone or even NOP's (no offense, NOP). He didn't say he was anything special EXCEPT that he pays attention when he MLs.
I liked his scenario. If I were his partner, I wouldn't want this every time, but the fact that he is capable of this kind of other-centeredness AT ALL would be wonderful. And the fact that I last had sex in January 2007 makes it look REALLY good to me.
The guy I refer to as my best-ever lover was a lot like this. (And yes, he was utterly fastidious as to personal grooming, even to shaving a second time in a day if sex was on the agenda). Both of us KNEW he would derive pleasure from our sex-- there was never any doubt about that... and so I could totally relax (sometimes) and let him just DO me. Haven't we occasionally said that that can be nice?
Didn't Miss IC refer the other day to a more emotionally centered O as a result of turning herself over to IC's pleasuring?
I guess I'm just so used to doing ALL the work that I wistfully look back on the guy who was very concerned with my pleasure.
Is it the fact that this guy seemed to say that he does this EVERY time that put people off? He said she comes every time... but I don't know whether this whole routine is played out every time.
Does anyone remember that fabulous scene in The Bridges of Madison County (a terrible book made into a quite good movie) where Meryl Streep and Clint Eastwood are in the bathtub together, and her voice-over narration says, "That week he gave himself over entirely to my pleasure."
I took that to mean: NOT to the exclusion of his own pleasure, but I didn't have to worry or work so hard at it. Kind of like what Mojo was saying about the lingering fear that GP will put on the brakes and tell her to slow down.
