Sue, don't get me wrong, I am not condoning his rude behavior, just trying to explain it from the WAS point of view. My H has gotten his most angry when I snooped, or when he even thinks I am snooping. Your H doesn't seem as possessive of his phone though.
He has no right to treat you the way he does. Know this.
Glad he checked on D3, offered to stay home, and is communicating. Big super hugs Sue!