Originally Posted By: azhira
Oh. Ugh, I need to get some sleep...forgot to say...

It just doesn't feel right being unfriendly with xh. ...



Hmm.
well, maybe there's a lesson to be learned somehow, in how to say "no" to your husband without being unfriendly.

you mentioned you're not religious, so you presumably dont believe in the whole "abstinence before marriage" thing ;\) but if you WERE that way... how would you handle it?

How would you handle a boyfriend who Really Wants It... while at the same time, you want to tell him, "i love you, but not until we're married" ?

If you're serious about your boundary of "no nookie for mr. 'im not ready'"... then perhaps thinking about that sort of thing would help you in ideas of how to stick to it.

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle