Well, my thought was, I should learn to be better at expressing my appreciation...regardless of who. xh gets caught in that loop. ;\) I'm not doing it as a means to 'convince' him to come back...merely identifying another area of myself I would like to work on.
How well do you accept services from others? I think it probably comes a bit easier in expressing gratitude once you are more acceptable of what others do for you. I know my W isn't good with accepting other people doing things for her or accepting love from anyone. I guess the though process is that you won't think "why'd you do that, I didn't ask for it, I can do that myself just fine", and instead thinking "hey thanks I really appreciate that, I guess you really care...". Just a thought....
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.