it doesnt matter how strongly someone believes something. It doesnt make it true. Either it is true, or it is not. There is no such thing as "it's true for them". That's the kind of crap that justifies divorce as 100% ok, rather than a broken promise and obligation. "what is true" can be best defined as "what is still there, reguardless of the amount of belief or lack thereof"
Now, whether it is true or not, may not change their mind on whether to do something about it. But it doesnt somehow change it from 'true' to 'false'.
I shall repeat what I said, rephrased slightly to match your A+B=C analogy:
"I dont want to" + "I'm not in the mood" IS NOT EQUAL TO "i cant".
It's simply "I wont".
They are not "incapable" of doing something about it. They just dont choose to do anything about it.
People like that who say "i cant", are simply using it as a verbal shield to hide behind, rather than being honest by saying, "I dont believe that the benefits to me of doing it, are bigger than the negative impacts to me of not doing it".
To put it another way, "I Cant(find enough motivation to) do that"
Last edited by Dom R; 11/12/0709:38 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
