I don't have a "place" as of now, but can be indoors, which is good since it's the middle of November in Minnesota and temps will be in the 20's at night. Daughter and I spent some quality time together Sat morning, she went with me to check out a health club, one that she's went to yearly for swimming lessons, then we went out for lunch. We talked about how mom and dad argued sometimes and that we didn't want to be doing it around her, we'd talked Friday night that dad would be moving out at some point down the road, I made it a little more clear Sat am that it wouldn't be too long, but didn't actually say Sunday.
We have been discussing custody concerns, my business is 45 minutes away from daughters school and the house. (My old house) We don't want to juggle her around three days here then four days there, it's tough for me to get her picked up at 5 from after school care when I work till 5, neither mom nor I want to do every weekend, we'll need to have some time as a single adult to go out on weekends, so even though I want her more than every other weekend we don't know yet how to make that work. We are trying to figure something out though.
Don't get me wrong, it's not like there are knock-down drag-outs at home every night, but we very seldom argued before, and if we did always tried to do it behind closed doors. Lately it seems that things are so close to the surface that a comment can lead to a snap can lead to arguing in 4 seconds and sometimes we don't catch ourselves before we realize what we're doing with daughter right there. It was never physical, just words, but I always felt bad that our daughter saw her parents behaving that way. I don't want her to think that it is an acceptable behavior. Hence I left, not only for my daughters mental health but mine and my wifes as well.
Lately I've been reading DB or DR in bed until the 2nd or 3rd time I doze off trying to read, then putting my marker a couple pages earlier so I reread what I was sleep-reading through.
Me:46 Her:40 Daughter:7 She Dropped Bomb:10/7/07 She Filed Papers w/State:10/30/07 I Left Home:11/11/07 I Moved Back In:11/13/07 My Outlook: I want nothing more than a future together and will do whatever it takes. Her Outlook: Been too long coming, I'm done.
