Christa,

Just emailed you back. No worries about things not going well with my W. It's been like that for so long now, I'm used to it so it doesn't really affect me either way. My M is over, and I'm finally okay with that.

As far as joining myspace, I've been told by a few people I should do it, but don't know if I ever will. Maybe some day...but don't know if I can set up a page quite like yours! You are a computer/technology genius, I'll bet! ;\) .

Sunny,

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I hope you don't move to a new forum, at least not for a while. You, out of most people here, have so much to offer newbies in terms of support & experience.


Thanks for the compliment, but it gets so sad to see newbie after newbie, and especially frustrating when I see newbies not investing 100% into DBing or just not getting it. I know they're hurting, but it's like they aren't listening sometimes. When you get to the point we're at, you just feel like everyone should "get it," you know? I also feel guilty when I see newbies and don't comment, but there are so many I just can't invest so much time into all of them.

Plus, what kind of a DBer am I if I'm no longer practicing what I'm preaching (since I'm putting myself out into the dating world). I mean, I continue in all other respects, but I feel kind of hypocritical when I suggest not dating and then go out and do it myself. And on that note...

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Sounds like you're having fun with the dating-lite, even if you have to keep the kids from taking it to serious lickety-split.


Yeah, I'm finally comfortable with the idea, and have found a few "prospects." ;\) Seriously though, the letting go of the STBX has been a huge relief for me, I feel a lot better in general, and even though I still think about her, my feelings are pretty nonexistent. I'm sad that our M is ending, but I don't really miss her anymore. I did have a dream that I was holding her and caressing her in bed the other night, and when I woke up to it, I actually didn't want to fall back asleep to it. I didn't want to be there, and that was definitely a change (though the dream says a lot about where my subconscious is, I think).

Hope H cancels that trip with OW -- he has to know that is a ridiculous choice to take her if he's expecting to begin working on your M. Hope he makes the counseling appt too -- probably a good idea to bring up the OW trip in your meeting too, or at least the OW sitch (what good would the counselor be able to do if all of the issues weren't out on the table?).

Take care, y'all!

GD (I now feel cool like Nomo!)



Me:29 XW:27
T: 10 M: 7 (2 kids)
Sep: 11/06/06 D'd: 12/07/07
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