IMHO the anger is a common trait. My W went through (and still is I suppose) a great deal of anger for the mess I had made of her life. That is what drove her to the A - WTF.
Sorry to hear about the calls, but on the positive side he did not take it and left it alone. It might be that the anger is not directed at you, but himself.
Look after yourself and your D. It is much harder to DB when you are tired, so rest as much as you can. Srry to hear about D also, I am lucky that W is totally committed to our S and D. Look on the bright side. Although your H is not talking to you, he is at least making you food.
Chin up and smile (even when you don't feel like it).
