We have some commonality. My W said she needed to figure out who she was. This meant she would start drinking.. staying out till 3 in the AM, etc.
Same attitude with the kids. She'd rather have her nails done then take them somewhere.
It's definitely a fog.. how can you jump into something so quickly?
The way I look at it... my W had to. She's to immature and unstable to truly be by herself. I'm very concerned (mostly for my children) if and when her A ends.
As for the Holidays.. yep.. especially in a new country and all. I really do feel for you guys.
My youngest D turns 3 and we are hashing B-day plans out. She gets them on Thanksgiving.. I get them on Xmas eve (family tradition) and she gets them Xmas day.
