Illuminata, I think an exceptional M is a worthy goal, but long-term. In the early stages of Piecing, your're going to have to be realistic and accepting of imperfection and small steps towards your ultimate goal.
For me, Piecing has partly been about an increased acceptance of the strengths and imperfections of my W and M, and being more patient, and less judgmental. This is a difficult lesson to learn.
I understand the dilemma of fear of backsliding. When things initially start to get better, there is a sense of groundlessness, that there is not yet stability in the M. It's important to maintain GAL activities and self-care. I continued my daily writing practice and dance lessons, as a means of keeping healthy boundaries and a sense of balance in my life.
I think it's premature to lay it all out on the table at this time. Your M is wobbly and just starting to stabilize. Focus on continuing positive connections and building enough of a rapport to address conflict.
What issues do you want to address at this time?
No, I don't think he can resolve his issues on his own. Your patience and positive influence will fertilize the ground, allowing him to grow.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
