Help me thru this sitch

[Pudmuddle]

Thanks for stopping by Brit!

Yes, its the good kind of peachy...my new mantra courtesy of Puddle, lol.

Yes, he's actually done the tummy thing a couple of times now, and he is a very visual guy (most are), so the dress thing I know got his mind working. He has always commented in the past on how I never wear dresses/skirts anymore. So that was a huge 180 for me. But it helped my PMA too!

I've noticed that since my W has been more comfortable with physical contact, and even frequently initiating it, our relationship has improved a lot. Not sure which feeds which, but I guess it doesn't matter. My W for a long time didn't even want me to hug her, much less anything else.

From a girl's perspective, They both do feed each other, her emotional side must be being fulfilled, so she feels she can be more physical with you.

And I think he did have fun that day, and I didn't realize how much I missed doing that with them..I had dropped off on that for awhile when I wasn't feeling emotionally fulfilled.

I am getting really good at not taking everything literally. I was feeling positive about the Xmas lights and the Tgiving dinner but had NO expectations out of any of it...From his talk and then actions I see totally different behaviors, so I have gotten good at looking beyond that and letting him figure himself out. It's mainly his side of the family that lives here so I THINK he would be ok with his family, but not sure. If we went together I wouldn't make it seem like a happy family thing for us(but not be miserable either) but just that we are there enjoying his family and the kids.

Thanks again for the insights.