I mean, the way you stated it, made it sound like the HD spouse was asking for the impossible. As if the LD spouse is "incapable" of meeting the HD spouse's needs.

"not wanting to", "not being in the mood", and "being incapable of", are all separate things, wouldnt you say?

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle