Down and out...need hope.

[Pudmuddle]

Don't be too hard on yourself, we all backslide. It's natural to let your emotions take over at times.

From what I observe, she started to feel good about things too before she left, but then realized she wasn't supposed to feel that way. When you reminded her how she was acting before, it reinforced her negative thoughts on how you were dealing with things. Back off, like you said, don't remind her of how things used to be, YOU keep moving forward, go back to detaching yourself and let her work take over her life. She will soon realize that is not all there is to life, plus, you cannot control what she is doing right now so let it go. She told you she wants to work on it because she is confused. She told you her feelings aren't matching up because she is confused. But remember to take the small positive steps for what they are...SMALL POSITIVE steps. Do not start acting as if things are back to being good between you , do not get overly excited if she is being happy with you again, take it verrrrrry slowly. She HAS seen the changes in you, now she wants to make sure that they are for real. When you backslide, she thinks oh the same old pattern here we go again...

Continue forth being good to YOU tostada! Don't pressure her about the R, dates, or good feelings. Concentrate on you, you, you. You wouldn't be here if you didn't believe in the R, but take it slowly, day by day.