Matilda and Jak, Calling my W at work when there has been recent conflict is a 180 for me.
On Friday night, my W and I went dancing at our venue (the DJ is leaving). There was a good crowd. My W says that I am now her favorite person to dance with.
On Saturday, I spent the day cleaning. I got on my hands and knees and cleaned the bathroom and kitchen floors. Usually I put a mop across them so I can get it done quickly. I began throwing away clutter from the basement. The goal is one hour per week of cleaning the basement.
My W took me clothes shopping and treated me to clothes with her cooking money. I usually buy myself clothes once per year. With her influence, I bought some different colors of shirts, and pants. I tend to buy the same conservative colors, but this time went with more confident looking colors like olive, dark blue, and gold shirts, and grey and other pants.
Afterwards we went to buy an oven for the kitchen. I gave my W freedom to buy what she needed, but was prepared to speak-up if I thought she was being extravagent. We ended-up buying a gas stove/oven that was about three steps above the discount model. It is self-cleaning, which was the highest priority, and had user friendly burners, that will be easy to clean. We were both happy with the purchase, and bought the lowest model that will meet our needs.
We went dancing to a local R&B club, without our usual crowd. We discovered a raspberry martini, and plan on looking for that particular vodka at the liquor store, so we can enjoy the same thing at home. We got home late, and she cooked us scrambled eggs. We put on some music and did some slow dancing.
On Sunday, I helped my W with her cooking job. I was more involved this time, helping consistently throughout the process. My role was to clean the pots and bowls, as she finished with them, to keep the area clear for her, and to minimize clean-up at the end. She complimented me on my assistance, and said she could not have done it alone.
She also cooked us some items--beef brisquet, and chili to enjoy during the week.
The only turbulence I can think of occurred when I left a purchase in the cart at the clothing store, and set off the alarm as we left. My W was embarrassed and angry with me for leaving it in there (she decided it was my fault). I kept quiet, and let her anger pass thru like a storm.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
