My irritation with this attitude has more to do with her callous disregard for the impact of her decisions upon two vulnerable and innocent children.
Ok. I apologize if I misunderstood...I am a bit sensitive on this topic.
Otherwise...stay out of it. Your kids are old enough to deal with this directly with their mother. There is no need for you to be in the middle.
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You both are telling me that there's no evidence that I'm any better for my XW than her current #1 OM.
There's not. You're being judgmental. It's entirely out of your hands. Don't worry about his MySpace, don't worry about his professed beliefs, don't worry about any of it. It's not about him; it's not about your xw; right now, you're making it about you. Let it go. Let it go for you...for your own sanity, for your own peace of mind. Just let it go.
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Incidentally, Mr. OM continues to be quite evasive when asked about the events leading him to divorce Mrs. OM #1.
How do you know this? Did your xw tell you so?
Again, just if he really is a crappy guy, the best thing you can do is stand back and let him trip himself up. If you "help" it along in any way...well...your xw will always wonder. She has to be able to see it for herself.
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Thanks again to you both for the "tough love" approach; I hope to get to the point where I'll recognize the point of your messages before acting upon the urge to defend my actions.
Well, not necessarily trying to do the tough love thing...just being direct.
