At least you are communicating. That is the most important thing. Sorry if I gave her ammunition against you. Certainly not my intent.
Have you considered going to a Retrouvaille or Imago weekend? If you two have open communication a lot can be accomplished there. The retrouvaille website is http://www.helpourmarriage.com. While falling in love with someone new is a lot of fun, sometimes it is easier to get the kind of marriage you want by fixing the one you have. At least you are not surprised when you unwrap the package.
