Help me thru this sitch

[Pudmuddle]

I am peachy.

Well it was an interesting weekend. Friday night I was asked out to dinner by some friends so I went and it was a blast being around happy people. Then Saturday I helped my SIL with a wedding - food preparation, that was long and exhausting but again fun to be around happy people. Plus I dressed in a nice skirt and top(which I rarely do), so it was a 180 for me! Plus my H noticed and said I looked really nice, twice, then he poked my tummy playfully from a small gap in the shirt I had on...Hmmm...I felt really nice looking so that felt good too.

Then I went to watch my S ride his dirtbike on Sunday, H normally takes him but my S asked if I would go and watch him. Plus my H and I used to do this together all the time in our more sparkly days. So I basically tried to watch my son, and not talk with H much, but I had a good time. My H kept bringing up small talk and asked once if I was totally bored. I just shook my head no and smiled, then went to watch some other racers practice. Then at some point I was talking with another girl that was there, and he asked later if I was being a "pit mom" (which means all the women get together and chat about racing) lol. At another point I was walking back to our trailer and my H came off the track from practicing and proceeded to ride past me. But THEN he turned around on his bike and came back behind me and said"want a ride little girl?" all playful like, so I said "Sure, will you give me one" and laughed. Then I climbed on the back and he rode me back to the trailer. Gosh it felt good to hug him, lol. So it was a good day, we joked and had small talk when my son was out practicing. I joked and had fun with my S, while my H watched us being silly.

I had thought my H was going out after he practiced with OW, because he had mentioed it earlier in the week. But after we got home, we went to the store, and then he just started fixing dinner...so he stayed HOME! I didn't question him at all about his other plans, I just absorbed it. Then after dinner we all watched a little hockey together, then I went and found something else to do for a while, I didn't want my husband to get suspicious of my motives for hanging out together too much. But then I called and talked to my mom about some other family issues we have going on, so I went and told him about that as he is interested. Plus he was also drinking a beer so he was in a friendlier mood, lol. (timing of the approach is everything right?) Then after we tucked my S into bed I started walking to my room to go to bed and I didn't look at my H, but he said loudly, "good night". He hadn't done that before. So I said good night.

He keeps waffling back and forth it seems about doing stuff on his own and then not. He mentioned friday that he had gotten his own bank acct. But then sunday he talked about not selling one of our cars he had been so adamant about before. And then as we were driving home at one point he noticed all the Xmas lights starting to come out and said how he thought we should start getting ours up...that surprised me. I get so confused! But these are small baby steps.

I also had mentioned to him that SIL had asked us over for Thanksgiving because she wanted me to bring some of my pies. Altho I thought I said it in a not so db way "I don't know what your plans are but SIL would like us to come over for Tgiving."

I shoulda left of the what your plans are part, because that doesn't matter. He didn't respond to that yet, but I know his Bro will call him too about this, so we shall see...

I hope this is all making a difference in his head.