Myturnnow, I really enjoy your posts. It is interesting to see that even an extreme and narcissistic MLCer eventually seems to emerge from the fog!
You are so gracious and unbitter about the sitch. Your posts have made me laugh and sigh as much as anyone's here. Glad you have a new guy, and that these Jekyll overtures are not causing you any concern. While I strongly support marriage, I also recognise that some relationships are too dysfunctional to continue. I think that is the quesiton that we all have to ask ourselves here. Do I want the marraige because it was fundamentally good, and has the potential to be better, or am I clinging on to something that I am probably better without, but am too scared to let go of.
I don't think we can know this in the early days, as we seesaw between pain, hurt, rage and healing, with our MLCer WAS so often doing all they can to sabotage our efforts, but gradually the answer to this question becomes apparent . . . .
