FF, I, too, say sorry that you're here. You'll get good support though.
It sounds like you're well into DBing so keep up the good work! The OM has been married 3x and had 1 marriage annulled? That's definitely a person with issues! It's hard but having her live with him may be a good thing right now. Affairs are fantasies. Right now this person is her knight in shining armor. But for sure someone with issues like that won't be too shiny for too long! Pretty soon she'll see that living with him will not be happily ever after.
But best thing you can do is DB! I would be her friend. You certainly don't have to come on too strong. But that way, when the road gets rough for her, and it will, you'll be there.
There are many of us here who sometimes think we're being door mats, but we know we're in it for love. We're fighting for what we believe in ... so welcome to the ranks!
