Ya I have to exhauste all options or I will second guess myself if I broke it off because of the sex issue. I will look into getting that book also. Thank you all for such support, its nice to get this out.
KML- I think her health is ok, although she is underweight (85 lbs, 5'2 inches tall) and tired a lot. She has had her thyroid checked when she was younger and it wasn't a problem. Only meds she takes is nuvaring birth control. And unfortunately she has had some sexual abuse in her past, which I'm seriously thinking is one underlining cause to our problems. We definetly have a long struggle ahead to resolve all this. The hardest part is trying to talk to her about it without pushing her away further, she doesnt take me very seriously, and if I make it a "big issue" it turns her off even more. I'm on chapter 8 of the SSM book, so I'm learing ways to discuss it with her without putting her on the defensive. Thanks a lot guys.
