I don't know if I should continue to DB.

[forward]

Thanks, T, I am starting to feel more at peace.

I am, after all, used to H being gone now. He's been living w/OW for 7 months.

[forward]

Well, today H came by and first thing he mentioned is something good that was work-related. I gave him some praise and encouragement. He is selling some work and said that I could stop by and see what he did, if I want.

Not sure if I want to.

No mention of D. Um, OK.

Crushee looked very attractive today.

[theforlornhope]

Ok, this is good, praise and encouragement are good, it's a small connection with him. Stopping by if you feel like it is also good, it might strengthen that connection. Maybe he isn't getting this interest or encouragement from the OW.

We don't know the whole story around that part of your lives prior to this.

Small connections without stress are the baby steps that everyone is talking about here.

No mention of D is also good. Not because it is off his mind, but because it isn't the foremost thing on his mind.

Keep in mind that this is often likened to a rollercoaster,, (with good reason,) and it easy for us to want to see a baby step as major improvement when the rollercoaster crests.

Just see it for what it is, a positive connection that is like a brick in the bridge back for him.

[forward]

I was gone all weekend. I did not miss H.

Mentioned his work on display again. No mention of D. Complaining about pain in his neck and back....

[forward]

Nothing either way. No talk of D, no apparent attempts to work on R.

Sigh. But if he does talk of D, I'm just not going to react much.

[Grace_O]

Is his work in a gallery?

If he brings up D, you can always just listen.

You sound down. I hope it's just apathy and not a really bad day.

You mentioned you were gone all weekend. Was it something special?

[TRUSTING]

Hugs breton, I have been thinking about you lately.

[theforlornhope]

Hey, you sound a little down like Grace said, keep your chin up. Don't let things get to you, there are a lot of us in the boat right with you.

Is his work at a place where you can go see it? or have you already seen it?

Keep your part of the conversations safe, nothing R related.

Be a safe haven for him to return to. It isn't fair, I know, but it is what we have to do.

[forward]

Thanks, everyone. Nothing much has happened lately. I went out with friends last night and am finding that I am getting my life back, which is a good feeling.

We'll see if he has anything to say today--I am guessing no.

[forward]

Also, I am puzzled as to why my H keeps asking me for paper towels and toilet paper.

I know he goes through them when he paints.

But I also wonder if a bulimic girlfriend might be the reason for them...?