...all I can say is I felt compassion, pity, and mercy for him...I mean, he had been such a wonderful dad, husband, and friend for many years...
Affairs are hard for the LBS...but I am now convinced that most are not easy on the WAS/MLC'er either...guilt is an evil bed fellow...worse it tends to stick to the very fiber of your being and infect you with such raw feelings that things from your childhood, things you thought you had dealt with...all of that "stuff" just comes bubbling up forcing you at some point to face reality...but the WAS/MLC'er avoid that for as long as they can...but when they hit bottom they usually reach out to the one who has always really and truly loved them...
Your courage and wisdom are an inspiration, especially having to endure it all over two years. I am in the process of forgiving my W, accepting what she is doing, and, hopefully detaching. It would be nice if some day I too can show her the compassion I'm starting to feel for her, but it's very possible that she will be re-married before she comes out of the fog. By then, the destruction will be complete.
LL
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