I agree with everything Saffie says, especially about working on youself. You can't "fix" your H (I wish it were that simple) you have to give him all the space he needs in order for him to "fix" himeself.
I have been through this and came out the other side. In Spet 2005 I got the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" speech and not long after the "I can't stay married to you, we have to separate and sell the house". BNow H and I are happy together.
But it took a LONG time, far longer than I hoped or wanted. I needed more patience than I ever thought it was possible to have, and when I felt hurt by H's actions and words it took a lot of strength for me to step back and remember my goal was to rebuild our M. Many, many times I wanted to scream at him, to lash out, to walk off myself but I kept going. Because to lash out would mean the end of our M, and that was not y goal. For me it was the worst experience I have ever been through. It felt like someone had punched their fist right into my chest and pulled my heart out. But I kept going. I spent nights on the phone to the Samaritins being persuaded not to go and top myself, I cried in all sorts of places, it hurt and hurt. But it wasn't all bad. As soon as I stopped worrying about my H and started working on me, doing things to make me happy it helped a great deal. That helped keep me going.
I hope you will continue to post, remember anything is possible. I think this place can be a great help to you.
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
