That is a difficult one. And as a woman I don't understand it. The men in my life have all been a bit crude in describing their desire for women. In a nutshell, they all seem to agree, "turn them upside down and they all look alike." Which means that sexual attraction to any particular woman is unimportant, they are turned on by all women.
This is something that I have seen in other couples who have had a good Retrouvaille experience. They fix the communication problems that were hiding their real problems, only to find that they are faced with a serious problem that goes much deeper. I don't know if joint counseling or individual counseling for your husband is that correct thing here, but I think you have to find a way to correct this problem or deal with it forever.
