There are lots of people on here who have been through what you are going through - and who have come out the other side. You are in the very early stages of this. I myself did not have my H leave - he had an A which he told me about after it had been going on 18 months. We sorted things and are now happily mattied again.
You may want to go and read through the resources on the various forums on here and see if any of the things strike a chord with you about your H's behaviour. Until you know why he is being like this you may not know how to move on with your M with him but you can work on yourself. Only your H can sort himself out whether it be because he is havimg an affair or is in midlife crisis or finds the pressure of a family too much - whatever the reason - until he can recognise what is going on with himself he cannot help himself. You need to look after you and your children. Don't give up hope. There are many people on here who have gotten to the divorce courts or even been divorced and then got back together.
Go read the success stories in the resources section.
A lot of people dissapear off thre boards once their M's recover as they no longer have the time or the necessity to be here. Others like myself and Jen-Jam stay inorder to help others and to journal and still ask for advice when we feel we need it.
Don't give up hope. Go and read the MLC sections and try posting on there. There are some great people on there and more than a few people who have sorted their M's out.
Keep posting girl. If you want to email me my email is in my profile.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
