Sue, the legal situation is, H was in an accident with OW. That's how I found out about the A. Unfortunately, even though it was not his fault (they were on his motorcycle, traffic slowed suddenly, he was hit by a truck), he has been charged with DWI and reckless driving. Also because of the DWI he is possibly facing a felony charge because OW was injured! He needs OW as she is his only witness. No one else saw the truck hit them. She does not want to press charges.
So it's a very sticky situation. He says he's trying to keep her appeased because he needs her for court. And, he is half afraid she would be vindictive and sue him if he abandoned her.
The enormity of how much he has messed up just astounds me. Sure, the accident was not his fault. But he should not have been drinking and driving. He did it all the time. I warned him so many times. He thought he was invulnerable.
It's been almost 6 months since the accident -- his first court appearance is this week! I won't be going. The OW needs to appear and if I go, H says she won't be in a good frame of mind. Great. It's our money paying for lawyer, and I can't go. He promises me that after this, I'll be by his side.
I don't think OW made a copy of the key. Guess she could have but don't think she would have had that much forethought to the fact that he would ask for it back.
I probably did some backsliding last night. The events from Friday still had me pretty angry so I forced some conversation on H. I couldn't get him to say much! Just sat there like a bump on a log. I told him I didn't know how much longer I could go on like this. I felt like I didn't have much left. I finally just asked him if I was holding on to nothing, he said, no, you're not holding on to nothing.
