Husband - Why are you keeping what she has done secret?
Larry,
This may sound oh I don't know, Maybe dumb.... but... My sitch is differant than most on here. I BELEIVE, My W had the Affair becasue she is really confused/unhappy/depressed. She did not go out and "Find" some guy. She met up with her old BF (who lives over 500 miles away. ( by Aggent 99 in Wash). I think she did this to see if that would change things. It did for about 2 weeks but I don't think she found happyness. Yes I know it is being selfish but she lost her job, Her mom is not doing very well, She feels to old to get a new job.(55). She needs to take some more schooling, and I think she feels bad that she is not the mother she thinks she should be to my son. Yes thses are excuses but This is the way I think she feels. I have put my own needs aside for awhile (ok a long while.) but things are changing. If I were to "break the news" to the family right now I would probaly kill her mom. (not exagerating, Her mom has pictues of me all over her house. More Pic's of me than her son.) My son would be devastated.(I have just got him to come out of his shell and learn how to meet other kids and play with them.) W would just keep buying video games to ocupy son. He would never leave his room.(he has no social skills, the other day he had a friend over and went and got himself a Cream Soda and offered his friend a glass of water.)
I am starting to think of myself though. the time has come. I will not go through 2008 the same way as 2007.
So I am not at this time telling the family. IF we were to separate then all bets are off. I will "spill the beans."
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
