Something just struck me as I was reading your last post Donna. I understand what you are saying about "needing to be broken".
Before I got married, if the person I was dating did not treat me right (in my eyes) or meet my expectations, I worked on making it better for an amount of time, but once I was done, I was done. Nothing that person could do would ever win me back.
I think after I got married, I refused to acknowledge a lot of things for fear of getting to that place.
I appreciate so much being able to read waht other people go through on this board. Sometimes it brings something to light in my own sitch.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011