I am in need of some help fast to try and save my 10 year marriage.
I will start from the beginning. My husband and I have always had a perfect relationship. Very loving etc. Always telling each other we love each other etc etc. We also have thre children together aged 5, 3 and 1.
Then On the 14th July 2007 my husband said to me that he was going out with one of his friends for an indian. Normally he would say do you mind if I go out. I was a bit put out as he had worked late all week and worked on the Saturday to. I wanted a nice night in together. He went off all angry. I sent him a text message in the afternoon to say I was unhappy etc. But no reply. He went out and came back very late and very drunk. A couple of days later we had a heart to heart. However he was not his normal self. He would normally hug me etc. But nothing. Then the next week weeek we went on holiday. The first week of our holiday he never came near me or told me he loved me which was not normal. I asked him about it and he said well you have not come near me or told me either. Then that night I asked him if he still loves me. He said dont know. I was crushed and kept questioning him. We got back off holiday the things were terrible. He would hardly talk to me. We went to see a counsellor. But no joy. He said he did not love me anymore and the spark had gone. I am devastated.
For the next three months we were supposed to be trying to sort things out. However he made no effort. We went away in a hotel a few weekends. One of the weekends though he did not talk to me all weekend. He went away for the weekend on his own to think. Still no joy. He did not know what he wanted. I went away and left him with the children on the 1st October for a week. Before I went he told me he had not given up hope and wanted to try etc etc. I came back and he would still not talk to me. Then the next day he said he wanted to leave and he did just that. That was now 5 weeks ago. He is determined that this is it and we are completely over. I just do not understand what went wrong. He has told me that there is no one else. Why wont he try and work things out? He wont even for our children?
